Somebody once said it...something like...if your value is determined by others compliments, then you will also be demolished by their deep criticisms.
I did not completely understand this quote right until recently. But now, I actually get it.
I suspect this is the 1st time in a very long time that I've heard about someone in particular saying bad things about me behind my back. For a second, it rocked me. For the minutes to hours after, it fueled me. I put those comments in a special place inside of me that I will go to each day when I need them. The honest reality is, motivation is many things for people. Ideally you would like to set an exceedingly positive goal for yourself and work towards achieving that goal. Nevertheless the fuel we must burn might actually not always be clean.
Sometimes, it's going to burn black.
I often talk passionately about the balance of life...light and dark...especially deep within the soul, and I believe that we will be able to find things deep down inside ourselves that will fuel our actions even if the fuel itself isn't pure. I am talking about the times somebody expounded something hurtful, horrible, rude or simply savage in all. For some, those things can positively ruin their ambitions. To be honest, that happened many times with me. I really did not have the belief in myself yet to "do it" irrespective of what anyone expounded.
These things that people say, at the end, aren't even actually about you. I know cause I have been on the other side. I remember a time when I couldn't say good things because I loathed myself. I abhorred that they were doing it and I could not. I hated everything about that person because they could make the sacrifices...they had the willpower...they were actually...doing what I had always dreamed about.
You can spend your life blaming other people and making an attempt to bring people down because you've got a useless life or you can focus upon loving yourself and others, something you absolutely and actually need to be a positive thinking person and motivate others and their dreams. At the end, spewing hate only tears you apart. Karma really does come around in some way or other and takes care of business. Been there as well.
You are either for people or against them.
Be for others. Be for their dreams...that makes you a warm person inside. Be for relationships. That cold heart you are harboring is only going to freeze harder and eventually divide into tons of pieces. Hate, jealousy, and envy will cut you in half and you will spend several years struggling between the loving side and the terrible side. Once more, been there. Irrespective of what you do, other people are going to not like you for whatever reason. They are going to be rubbed the wrong way, they won't like your hair, your eyes, your nose, your smell, your image...they will find a way. Don't sweat it. You are on course. Because honestly, no one has ever talked trash about someone who failed to mean something to them in some way or other.
Remember that. Not everybody is going to like peaches.
So you have to actually matter to them. So much, in fact, they have been taking time out of their day to speak about you. What an accolade.
So cheers...haters...I tip my cap to you. I must be headed in the right direction.
I did not completely understand this quote right until recently. But now, I actually get it.
I suspect this is the 1st time in a very long time that I've heard about someone in particular saying bad things about me behind my back. For a second, it rocked me. For the minutes to hours after, it fueled me. I put those comments in a special place inside of me that I will go to each day when I need them. The honest reality is, motivation is many things for people. Ideally you would like to set an exceedingly positive goal for yourself and work towards achieving that goal. Nevertheless the fuel we must burn might actually not always be clean.
Sometimes, it's going to burn black.
I often talk passionately about the balance of life...light and dark...especially deep within the soul, and I believe that we will be able to find things deep down inside ourselves that will fuel our actions even if the fuel itself isn't pure. I am talking about the times somebody expounded something hurtful, horrible, rude or simply savage in all. For some, those things can positively ruin their ambitions. To be honest, that happened many times with me. I really did not have the belief in myself yet to "do it" irrespective of what anyone expounded.
These things that people say, at the end, aren't even actually about you. I know cause I have been on the other side. I remember a time when I couldn't say good things because I loathed myself. I abhorred that they were doing it and I could not. I hated everything about that person because they could make the sacrifices...they had the willpower...they were actually...doing what I had always dreamed about.
You can spend your life blaming other people and making an attempt to bring people down because you've got a useless life or you can focus upon loving yourself and others, something you absolutely and actually need to be a positive thinking person and motivate others and their dreams. At the end, spewing hate only tears you apart. Karma really does come around in some way or other and takes care of business. Been there as well.
You are either for people or against them.
Be for others. Be for their dreams...that makes you a warm person inside. Be for relationships. That cold heart you are harboring is only going to freeze harder and eventually divide into tons of pieces. Hate, jealousy, and envy will cut you in half and you will spend several years struggling between the loving side and the terrible side. Once more, been there. Irrespective of what you do, other people are going to not like you for whatever reason. They are going to be rubbed the wrong way, they won't like your hair, your eyes, your nose, your smell, your image...they will find a way. Don't sweat it. You are on course. Because honestly, no one has ever talked trash about someone who failed to mean something to them in some way or other.
Remember that. Not everybody is going to like peaches.
So you have to actually matter to them. So much, in fact, they have been taking time out of their day to speak about you. What an accolade.
So cheers...haters...I tip my cap to you. I must be headed in the right direction.
About the Author:
Evan Sanders is the author of The Words Of Encouragement, a website dedicated to bringing the best quotes, motivational content on the web, and blogs all to one place. Need to move on? A lover talking behind your back? Try out these ex boyfriend quotes.
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