How To Know If Your Marriage Needs Relationship Help?

By Reynaldo Fuentes


Very few marriages are perfect, in fact, at one time or another, most marriages require some sort of relationship help. A marriage without a good relationship has little hope of lasting a lifetime. Should it last, the partners aren't usually happy or content and that is when trouble starts.

The difference between a marriage and a relationship is that when people marry, they form a bond in matrimony and in the eyes of the law and man they are united until death (or divorce) do they part.

A relationship is meaningful feelings formed following the marriage. They continue to deepen and grow for as long as a marriage is maintained. Actually the relationship should start well in advance of the wedding vows.

It isn't hard to tell when you need relationship help for your marriage. However, other people might notice this well before you do. Some of the warning signs include going alone to functions and then offer an excuse for why your spouse is not in attendance.

If you're a couple, the more you're out without one another, the more likely your relationship needs help. When you are together you likely don't do a lot of talking, you may simply sit with one another but not really say anything or worse, you may pretend the other person is interesting all the while hoping the event is over soon.

More signs of a relationship in decline are lack of interest in the bedroom. While both of you may be young and attractive, the spark has gone out and one of you may even fantasize about others.

You no longer feel the affection and there are few hugs, no kisses and rarely are the three magic words of 'I love you' spoken. Humans require touch and warmth to feel like they are valued. Without touch, there is a serious issue going on.

Jealousy is a huge turn off to the other partner when carried to the extreme. The jealous person will withdraw and the other person will feel as if the one that is jealous is being unfaithful. The other partner will then hold back as they feel cheated upon. It's a vicious circle that is hard to break.

Make sure you don't exaggerate the situation and do establish ground rules that both of you must follow. If jealousy becomes a growing and continuous problem, it is time to seek help. The jealousy needs to be curtailed in order for intimacy to be back in your relationship.

Debt and money issues can cause relationship problems too. Not enough money to meet day-to-day needs is always cause for concern. But, if the couple is willing to work together and come up with a budget and live within their means, this will help to greatly release some of the tension.

Living within a budget can actually save a relationship. Too much debt can put a serious strain on the marriage. When either spouse constantly overspends and they are drowning in a sea of debt, then the marriage will also begin to sink.

Marriages suffer frequently when things like this occur. Conflicts and disagreements soon become the norm. It's good to stop and do inventory on occasion and see how things are really going between the two of you. Make the required adjustments and continue on in your life. You will see a huge difference and the relationship will become much stronger in the end.




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